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How to Nail First Contact - 11 Things Adoptees and Birth Parents Should Know About Adoption Reunion
Adoption Reunion for Adoptees and Birth Parents involves preparing with adoption therapy, searching for birth family, and first contact
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Jul 17, 20244 min read
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Adoptees: Why Reading a Book Might Change Your Life
For adoptees, the more we read the words of other adoptees, the stronger our thread of self becomes.
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Jul 7, 20243 min read
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The Cost of a Couch: Social Connection and Limitations Adoptees Face
Six months after I left Guam to deal with a family emergency, I returned to find two happy wagging tails at the door and the exploded...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 13, 20245 min read
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To be Vulnerable - An Adoptee's Greatest Fear
A loud bang and clatter make me jump. I nearly drop the contact lens precariously balancing on my index finger, and as I lean forward to...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 7, 20245 min read
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Her
Birthmom. Bio Mom. First mom. Mama. When I was a very little girl, as young as five or six, I would play a strange, demented version of...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Feb 28, 20243 min read
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Smile for the Photo
"You look so happy" they said, snapping the photo of me with my hands raised in the outline of a gingerbread man at a Christmas light...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
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Undoing the Danger
Looking back, it is clear that at the core of confusing family dynamic and parenting decisions my adoptive parents made was a deep...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20234 min read
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Grief: a lifelong companion
After seemingly hundreds of different documents, a hefty bank transfer, and no small amount of nerves, my partner and I finally posed for...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
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Adoption Gives You a Different Life
I stumbled upon the social profile of an elementary friend I had lost touch with long ago. As I scrolled through the highlights of her...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
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Learning to Live with Absence
Lately, I've been learning to live with a strange sort of absence. If you are an adoptee you may know what I mean. Tonight an indie movie...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 10, 20232 min read
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The Luxury of Having No Questions
A few years ago, I happened to be conversing with a new friend who asked me what I liked to do for fun. At the time, I was delving deep...
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Jul 5, 20222 min read
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Adoptees and Conflict
Adoptees and Relationships: How do adoptees deal with conflict? What are some ways adoptees can handle interpersonal relationship conflict?
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 3, 20225 min read
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Birthday Part 2
Adoptive family and birthdays are a tricky component to navigate. Join me as I handle the reality of birthdays as an adult adoptee
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 3, 20225 min read
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Birthday Part 1
Pre-birthday tension is actually very common for people who have been adopted. Here's what it's like for me, as a military spouse & adoptee
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Apr 2, 20225 min read
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You Didn't Hear Me Cry: Communication as the Adoptee's Deepest Wound
Although I am not a mother myself, I’ve browsed enough birth vlogs on YouTube to have a good idea of what happens when a baby is born....
Rae | Adoptee Coach
Mar 29, 20225 min read
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